Monday, November 13, 2006 | by nathan

Definition: Part 2

Brian sent me this. Self-hatred, revisionist history and overly dramatic attempts at heterosexuality were a part of my life for so long that I recognize the signs. I spun my story out so much that by the time I was convicted to tell it honestly, I almost didn’t recognize it.

Luckily, I never got married to a woman; even when I believed being gay was wrong, something in me believed more strongly that it would be worse to date or marry a woman just in some lame attempt to prove I was straight.

Brian showed the story to his brother, who said, "When will that church realize that they hurt more people than they help?"

I want to love the church - the family of believers - but sometimes they’re like a stupid stepchild who doesn’t understand not to touch the hot stove unless you hit him. Or, in this case, relentlessly mock him.

Things like this make me angry because I see signs all over of how it’s psychologically unhealthy. John J. McNeill said that whatever is bad psychology must be bad theology, and I think he’s right; God challenges us and convicts us, yes, but we are never unsafe, never unhealthy in all of this. Whinging, hand-wringing little faggots who marry unfortunate, sympathetic women just so their church will accept them are not safe or healthy, and neither are their wives, their families, or the people who care about them.